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When you provide care and support to others, there are many rewards and stresses for all of the choices we make. Caregivers have a bad tendency to disregard their own needs and prioritize the needs of others.

Victoria Huff chats with Tracey Lawrence about the ways adult children of aging loved ones can cope better with the demands in their lives and find ways to lead happier lives.

Join them in this lively and informative podcast!

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$117,000 Hospital Bill??? Don’t Pay That Bill!

A dear friend of mine was hospitalized a few years ago with some concerning symptoms. She came out of the situation and returned home only to receive an unpleasant surprise. The hospital sent her a bill for $117,000.

My friend, Adria Gross, helps people with these kinds of situations. In this “Good Kids Club” podcast, “Don’t Pay That Bill,” Adria shares her process and the happy outcome.

Listen to the episode here.

I have such awesome friends! And I’m happy to share them with you!

Now Hear This! 👂🏻

We now have a PODCAST!

Every week, Tracey Lawrence does a live session for her private Facebook group, The Good Kids Club. Now, in addition to the live Zoom chats she has with her very smart friends, the same content is being made available as a podcast. Knowing that busy people can’t always sit and watch, we wanted folks with aging loved ones to be able to listen and learn.

New content will be added at least once a week!

Available on Spreaker, Spotify and iTunes Podcasts!

Healthy, Wealthy and Wiser

This topic came up on my private Facebook group, “The Good Kids Club” and I thought it might have some value for others in this situation.

So many of us face caring for parents as we age. At a time when we feel more able to slow down and put ourselves first, the specter of family caregiving often shows up as an unrequested “gift.” We love our parents (we may not LIKE them, but we LOVE them) and want to do the right thing. This past year drove many independent seniors to seek support from adult children because they were fearful of doing the simple things that never bothered them before. So many found themselves more involved in their parents lives sooner than anticipated (if they even saw it coming at all).

Once we begin to step up, we are too often unprepared for the challenges that arise. One club member posted a story about her mom, who is in her 90s, having a condition causing pain in her mouth. It was not a dental issue, but because of how the condition was charted, Medicare viewed the problem as “dental” and denied the charges. This was an expensive error. The author of the post suspected this would happen, and the upshot was that her intuition was correct, her mom got seriously overcharged for treatment that should have been covered, and the dutiful daughter now has to contest the denial.

Now, this can happen to anyone. Standard operating procedure for most health insurers is to deny first, fend off queries later. They are BUSINESSES. The health of the insured is not their primary concern. Collecting premiums and denying claims have much higher priorities. So it falls on us to watch what they do, ask a lot of questions and make sure they do what they’re paid to do: pay for as much of our healthcare as they promise to.

When we get involved with our parents’ care, we need certain tools:

Number 1: HEALTH CARE PROXY. We need to be officially and legally appointed by our parents to represent them. Without that document, insurers can dodge you. So don’t make it easy for them. Make sure you are appointed and have a valid document that proves it.

Number 2: TEAM UP WITH DOCTORS. In order to make sure your folks are getting their procedures and treatments covered, they need to be seeing doctors who know how to navigate. Get to know the doctors who care for your parents. Talk to them. Ask questions. And if they aren’t going to doctors, seek out appropriate physicians and get your parents to go. Go with them if you can.

Number 3: CHECK THEIR INSURANCE. I highly recommend talking to a Medicare broker to go over the products your parents are using. The types of programs available change annually and vary from state to state. Brokers don’t charge for their advice, and they are product agnostic. Getting their opinion on your parents’ coverage can save a bundle and doesn’t cost anything but your time.

One last thing: while you’re considering these concepts regarding your folks, consider your own situation as well. Time moves merrily along, and in the blink of an eye, we’re in the position our parents were in. Let’s learn from it, protect ourselves and those who love us and sleep better knowing we’ll get the care and support we all need, without spending everything we’ve worked all of our lives to acquire.

The Good Kids Club

As parents age, they often become more reliant on their adult children for support. Especially now, when so many are frightened by the prospect of getting sick from a virus that picks on the elderly.

I talk to A LOT of those adult children. Many don’t realize that they are performing a role called “caregiving.” They think of themselves as “Good Kids” helping out their folks because it’s the right thing to do.

And that is a good and noble thing. We should help our parents when we can. Unfortunately, the things they need us to do for them usually escalate over time, and it sneaks up on us. Before we realize it, we go from helping out with occasional errands to engaging in a full-time, unpaid gig that eats our lives.

I started the The Good Kids Club, a private group on Facebook (and a corresponding group on LinkedIn called “Good Kids” with Careers) to educate and inspire people in this growing segment of the population. People are aging at an alarming rate, and their kids are under pressures they never foresaw.

These groups are growing and I hope you’ll join us. We need your voice and perspective. When you ask a question you might think of as “stupid,” a bunch of other people see it and think “Oh yeah! Me too! What can be done about this?”

So I invite you to join our club(s) and let’s help each other. Be a Good Kid and sign up today!

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/goodkidsclub

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/9027833/

Interview in Digital Journal

Aging #1Some people are shy. I used to be, but found no satisfaction in it. So I’ve been sharing my story lately and now that “Dementia Sucks” has attained bestseller status, folks are listening!

Here’s a wonderful interview with Markos Papadatos of Digital Journal talking about my caregiving journey, how to led to writing the book and creating a brand new course for people about to become caregivers to aging love ones. Check it out!

http://www.digitaljournal.com/life/lifestyle/tracey-s-lawrence-talks-dementia-sucks-grand-family-planning/article/576280

Learn How to Save Your Own Life!

You were doing fine. Your folks seemed fine. Everything was moving right along, and then COVID happened. Suddenly, the kids are home all the time. You’re trying to work from home. And your parents, who’ve been so independent and on top of it all, are showing their vulnerability.

It’s more than a little disconcerting. You haven’t really given this a whole lot of thought but, dang, they aren’t going to be around forever and maybe, just maybe, there are things about Mom and Dad that you really should know but haven’t even considered asking.

Now is your golden moment. You have an opportunity to ask them all those questions you’ve been avoiding, but what should those questions even be? HOW do you even approach the conversation? And what do you do with that knowledge once you have it?

Here’s where you should go, right now: the Family Care Survival Course. This online 2 hour on-demand video curriculum will walk you through the tough stuff and give you a grounding in how to do this complicated stuff with greater success and more satisfying outcomes.

Designed by Tracey S. Lawrence, author of the ground-breaking book “Dementia Sucks” specifically for the adult children of aging loved ones, this course is packed with great, actionable information. Delivered in Tracey’s down-to-earth, approachable style, you’ll come away with a strategy to get your family moving in the right direction!

Don’t wait! Click here now!

True Story: Recovered from COVID!

My friend, Carlos Drouet, is an amazing guy. He’s sweet and humble. A US Army Vet of 9 years, he now serves as a Firefighter in Jersey City, NJ. He’s also a loving father. And the lead singer in a rock band called “Faith In Chaos.” In April, Carlos contracted COVID-19. Hear his story. You have a right to know that there IS a safe, effective treatment!

Hear Carlos’ Story Here!